The fact is, there is no foundation, no secure ground, upon which people may stand today if it isn't the family. If you don't have the support and love and caring and concern you get from a family, you don't have much at all. Love is so supremely important.
~~ Morrie from Tuesdays with Morrie, Mitch Albom ~~
So many people walk around with a meaningless life. They seem half-asleep, even when they're busy doing things they think are important. This is because they're chasing the wrong things. The way you get meaning into your life is to devote yourself to loving others, devote yourself to your community around you, and devote yourself to creating something that gives you purpose and meaning.
~~ Morrie from Tuesdays with Morrie, Mitch Albom ~~
Tomorrow is my mother's funeral and burial. I was asked today to speak at her service. Below is my memorial to my mother.
Be strong. Be intelligent. Smile.
Know that beauty has everything to do with how you feel about yourself and nothing to do with looks or other people's opinions.
Never do anything just because everyone else is if you believe it's wrong.
Always be true to yourself.
Stand up for what you believe in.
Expect the best from life and that's what you'll get.
Learn from your mistakes and failures.
Believe in magic and wish on stars.
Love and trust and be compassionate.
Make faces. Play in mud puddles. Take bubble baths.
Turn off all the lights and watch lightening storms.
Dance, laugh, cry, and sing when you want to.
Read everything you can get your hands on.
Stand up for what is right especially if you stand alone.
Don't allow yourself or people around you to tolerate prejudices of any kind.
Don't be afraid to try something new.
Do something daring at least once a week.
Run through snow drifts.
Spin in circles and roll down hills.
Pet puppies, hold kittens, and talk to/cuddle babies.
Take afternoon naps. Stay up to watch the sunrise.
Never apologize for being a woman or for being yourself.
Never forget that I love you more than any other person in the world, no matter how far apart we are you will always be my daughter.
Her last words to me were, "I've always loved you. I love you forever and always."
Thank you, Mom, for everything you taught me, for loving me no matter what I did.
I love you, Mom.
Accept the past as past, without denying it or discarding it.
~~ Morrie from Tuesdays with Morrie, Mitch Albom ~~
Accept what you are able to do and what you are not able to do.
~~ Morrie from Tuesdays with Morrie, Mitch Albom ~~
In case you haven't heard the sad news, my mother died on Monday, August 3, 2009, after fighting lung cancer for 9 months, 8 days.
Because I did not show up to see my mother as often as others wanted me to, I have been judged by my closest relatives.
Here is my response to the negative posts on Facebook and nasty emails I received:
Just because I was not physically there for my mom as often as you and others does not mean I did not care or that I was ignoring the problem. At least, I admit I cannot/could not handle it. My mom knew why I wasn't around and she accepted it. You can ask Dayna, my sister, about it.
I've been through having a sick parent (open heart surgery, twice) before with my dad and I did it all alone. But for whatever reason that is okay. But I didn't/haven't held it against anyone in the family.
If you would like to know more about my life then ask. So much has happened to me and my mom taught me to be an independent,self-sustaining, self-supporting woman, so there is much my family does not know.
The few times I have asked for help, the answer was no, so I quit asking.
I love my family but I don't show it in the way you want or others want so I get judged. But this is me... this is who I am.
To see the obituary, go to Boylan Funeral Home.
The wise man in the storm prays to God, not for safety from danger, but deliverance from fear.
~~ Ralph Waldo Emerson ~~
A multitude of small delights constitutes happiness.
~~ Charles Baudelaire ~~
Each week (at least, every other week), I post a QOTW (Question of the Week) so you can join in and we can get to know each other better.
This week's question:
What is the one thing you always carry in your purse?
My answer:
Wallet, camera, Tylenol, pen, gum, lipstick. There is a lot more but those are my basics.
Combining soothing music with soul-stirring messages of inspiration, hope, and love, this brief movie will relax your body, rejuvenate your mind, and renew your spirit.
Men have always been afraid that women could get along without them.
~~ Margaret Mead ~~
If a nation expects to be ignorant and free in a state of civilization, it expects what never was and never will be... If we are to guard against ignorance and remain free, it is the responsibility of every American to be informed.
~~ Thomas Jefferson ~~
In honor of my birthday today...
The importance of birthdays is not how many you've had but rather how well you've celebrated.
Birthdays are days for reflection . . . to celebrate who you are and who you will become.
Your confidence is an important tool in life, and it's vital for you to appreciate the value you bring to the world. Cherish who you are, because there is no one else on earth who has your unique blend of sophistication, intelligence, and compassion!
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