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The Awakening

A time comes in your life when you finally get it -- when, in the midst of all your fears and insanity, you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your head cries out -- ENOUGH.  Enough fighting and crying and blaming and struggling to hold on.  Then, like a child quieting down after a tantrum, you blink back your tears and begin to look at the world through new eyes.

This is your awakening.

You realize it’s time to stop hoping and waiting for something to change, or for happiness, safety, and security to magically appear over the next horizon.

You realize that in the real world there aren’t always fairy tale endings, and that any guarantee of “happily ever after” must begin with you . . . and in the process a sense of serenity is born of acceptance.

You awaken to the fact that you are not perfect and that not everyone will always love, appreciate, or approve of who or what you are and that’s OK.  Others are entitled to their own views and opinions.

You learn the importance of loving and championing yourself, and in the process a sense of new found confidence is born of self-approval.

Your stop complaining and blaming other people for the things they did to you -- or didn’t do for you -- and you learn that the only thing you can really count on is the unexpected.

You learn that people don’t always say what they mean or mean what they say and that not everyone will always be there for you and everything isn’t always about you.

So, you learn to stand on your own and to take care of yourself, and in the process a sense of safety and security is born of self-reliance.

You stop judging and pointing fingers and you begin to accept people as they are and to overlook their shortcomings and human frailties, and in the process a sense of peace and contentment is born of forgiveness.

You learn to open up to new worlds and different points of view.  You begin reassessing and redefining who you are and what you really stand for.

You learn the difference between wanting and needing, and you begin to discard the doctrines and values you’ve outgrown or should never have 'bought' into to begin with.

You learn that there is power and glory in creating and contributing, and you stop maneuvering through life merely as a 'consumer' looking for you next fix.

You learn that principles such as honesty and integrity are not the outdated ideals of a bygone era, but the mortar that holds together the foundation upon which you must build a life.

You learn that you don’t know everything, it’s not your job to save the world.  You learn the only cross to bear is the one you choose to carry and that martyrs get burned at the stake.

Then you learn about love.  You learn to look at relationships as they really are and not as you would have them be. You learn that alone does not mean lonely.

You stop trying to control people, situations, and outcomes.  You learn to distinguish between guilt and responsibility and the importance of setting boundaries and learning to say "no."

You also stop working so hard at putting your feelings aside, smoothing things over, and ignoring your needs.

You learn that your body really is your temple.  You begin to care for it and treat it with respect. You begin to eat a balanced diet, drinking more water, and take more time to exercise.

You learn that being tired fuels doubt, fear, and uncertainty and so you take more time to rest.  Just as food fuels the body, laughter fuels our soul.  So you take more time to laugh and to play.

You learn that, for the most part, you get in life what you deserve, and that much of life truly is a self-fulfilling prophecy.

You learn that anything worth achieving is worth working for and that wishing for something to happen is different than working toward making it happen.

More importantly, you learn that in order to achieve success you need direction, discipline, and perseverance.  You learn that no one can do it all alone, and that it’s OK to risk asking for help.

You learn the only thing you must truly fear is fear itself.  You learn to step right into and through your fears because you know that whatever happens you can handle it and to giving in to fear is to give away the right to live life on your own terms.

You learn to fight for your life and not to squander it living under a cloud of impending doom.

You learn that life isn’t always fair, you don’t always get what you think you deserve and that sometimes bad things happen to unsuspecting, good people, and you lean not to always take it personally.

You learn that nobody’s punishing you and everything isn’t always somebody’s fault.  It’s just life happening. You learn to admit when you are wrong and to build bridges instead of walls.

You lean that negative feelings such as anger, envy, and resentment must be understood and redirected or they will suffocate the life out of you and poison the universe that surrounds you.

You learn to be thankful and to take comfort in many of the simple things we take for granted -- things that millions of people upon the earth can only dream about -- a full refrigerator, clean running water, a soft warm bed, and a long hot shower.

Then, you begin to take responsibility for yourself by yourself and you make yourself a promise to never betray yourself and to never, ever settle for less than your heart’s desire.

You make it a point to keep smiling, to keep trusting, and to stay open to every wonderful possibility.

You hang a wind chime outside your window so you can listen to the wind.

Finally, with courage in you heart, you take a stand, you take a deep breath, and you begin to design the life you want to live as best as you can.

Thought of the Day - 2/13/10

Don't let any obstacle stop you.  Always remember that you have the spiritual and mental qualities within you that can overcome even the seemingly impossible.
~~ Norman Vincent Peale ~~

Thought of the Day - 2/12/10

Faith power in the mind,
like adrenaline in the body,
can release amazing powers within you in crises.
~~ Norman Vincent Peale ~~

Different Sides of Me

This barely counts as a post.  My apologies. No real reason. No life shattering drama, just a rough day in the life of this Mom. My world isn't so different from yours. It's not more difficult. It's not busier. It's just life, and life today -- and the past several days -- was hard.

I was not a great Mom today, and it was one of those tough days where I didn't care . . . at least, not at the time. Now I feel the pangs of guilt, the sting of my tone, and pray for the hope of short memories. I am sorry for them and to you. But there it is.

Let me just ask you this ---> Are you friends with those in your own home? Are you friends with your family?

Today I would have to say "no".

I have a bad habit of being too real with the sweet people who share my immediate space.

On more than one occasion my friend has said, "You don't talk to others this way."

She is right. I am not confrontational. I am regretfully happy. I am not so easily angered. I don't get my feelings hurt very often. I love my friends, and I want them to love me.

At home, I AM different than my public persona.  Maybe more real, but certainly less long-suffering.

Thought of the Day - 2/11/10

Set aside a few minutes every day to say aloud such words as "exciting, dynamic, marvelous, fabulous, terrific."
~~ Norman Vincent Peale ~~


PLR Gift and How to Use It

Private label rights content, better known as PLR, is the best go between for days you just don’t want to write up full blog posts on your own but you don’t want to publish "copy and paste" stuff or use other people’s work either. You can get PLR pretty inexpensively from various places on a variety of topics. Sometimes, you get sweet deals like the FREE PLR below.

Computer Buying Tips
This is a report which you can break up into smaller chunks to make a blog series or add to your freebie list.

It is best you read the can and cannots by the PLR provider before you use them. Generally, they are pretty liberal with the terms. Some suggestions on using the above PLR:

  • Break it up into chunks to make a nice week-long series of posts.
  • Break it up into chunks to feed into your email autoresponder as a mini-ecourse.
  • Use is as a freebie download with or without subscribing to your email list.
  • Send it to your customers or list subscribers as a bonus or thank you.
  • Make an audio or video recording based on the reports.
  • You could do more than one of the above. Don't limit yourself.

Thought of the Day - 2/10/10

Celebrate the beauty of your dreams
and forever hold close the private treasures of your heart.

Thought of the Day - 2/8/10

A baby is God's opinion that life should go on.
~~ Carl Sandburg ~~

Thought of the Day - 2/7/10

Our family is a circle
of strength and love.
With every birth
and every union,
the circle grows.
Every crises faced together
makes the circle stronger.
Every joy
adds more love.

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