ADHD & Organization - Can They co-Exist?
Just because you have ADHD doesn't mean you have to be disorganized. In fact there are many people with ADHD who are incredibly well organized. Being organized has helped them thrive. However, if you have ADHD it is often more difficult for you to get organized and stay that way.
What does being organized mean?
Being organized is not about putting things away and everything being neat and ready for company. It is about how you function in your environment. It means that you control your environment, your things and your time, instead of your environment controlling you. Organization is how you manage your things, your time, and your tasks.
What about ADHD contributes to disorganization?
ADHD involves your brain's frontal lobe which acts as the "executive functioning" area of your brain. This is the part of your brain that allows you to make decisions, set rules, prioritize, assign responsibilities, help you focus and remember.
Getting organized involves several steps that are often done in a specific order.
1. Decision Making -- Decide what you need and what you don't need.
2. Setting Rules -- Categorize what you have left.
3. Assigning Responsibilities -- Assign a place to keep these things and put them away
4. Focusing and Remembering -- Keep everything organized on an ongoing basis.
To follow these steps to get organized and then to stay "organized" once you must have systems in place and keep on track while you are performing tasks which are less than stimulating. When you look at it this way it is no wonder that people with ADHD have trouble being organized.
People with ADHD have trouble focusing on routine tasks...is there anything more routine (and boring) than opening mail, paying bills and filing? How about doing laundry and putting away clothes?
People with ADHD have trouble filtering out distractions. Going through old clothes in your closet is just not that exciting. How can you stay focused on the one thing that you are trying to get done when you hear "You've got mail!" or the phone rings? Not only do you lose your place on the stack of papers you were working on but you get pulled completely off task. It might be hours, days or even weeks until you get back to that pile.
If it is so hard to be organized why should I bother?
One of the ironies of ADHD life is that the more organized you are and the more routines you have in your schedule and life, the easier it will be for you to function. What organization does is allow you to NOT have to focus on this minutia. Once organizing becomes routine you don't have to think about where something goes or where to find something that you put away. Once you have a schedule for getting up and out of the house in the morning you don't have to worry about what to do 1st, 2nd, and 3rd or whether or not you will make it to work on time. Once you have schedules and routines you don't have to hunt all over the house for your bills and when you finally track them all down pay them late.
Let's get organized:
Realize that you are NOT perfect. You don't have to have a perfect system and there are no set rules to follow. The system you create only needs to make sense to you.
Be yourself. Don't try to fit someone else's mold. Instead, create systems and routines that reflect your personality and make them fun. Remember that one great thing about ADHD is the ability to be creative and brainstorm. Come up with the wackiest way to organize your environment. That will probably the way it will work best for you.
Learn to say "NO.” Before deciding to take on a new responsibility make sure you have the time and ability to add it to your current schedule. If you don't have the time decide which activity from your current schedule you will stop.
Use broad categories for filing and organizing. Depending on how you think you can file all banking things together and all credit cards together. They don't need individual files unless that would help you.
Label everything. Remember people with ADHD tend not to remember "unimportant" details like which drawer they put their bank statements in or which refrigerator drawer holds the fruit or which list is for phone calls. Labeling helps you to find things and put them away.
Create Mini-Tasks. Break up all tasks into mini-tasks that take 10 - 15 minutes each. Smaller tasks are easier to do and to schedule.
Manage organization energy bursts. Work for 5, 10 or 20 minutes and then, even if you aren't done, stop. If you have a list of mini-tasks set up you should have a list of things you can accomplish fairly quickly.
If it works stick with it. When you are faced with organizing something new, look at the systems you have that work and try to figure out why it works. Build onto these systems or create new ones that are similar.
Use memory tricks. Don't just try to remember things, use multiple senses. Say it aloud to yourself, tell someone, sing it, write it down and keep the note somewhere that you will really see. If it is a routine or habit you are trying to create make a rhyme out of the sequence of things you want to accomplish, create a sign and post the new habit where you will be doing it.
Ask for help. Often having someone to keep you company is enough to get many people moving and stay on task. Maybe you can volunteer to keep a friend company if they keep you company?
Get your kids help. Tell your kids what you are going to do. They love catching parents "misbehaving." Most people will do anything to avoid being caught by their children.
Be Flexible. Remember life happens. Sometimes despite your best planning things don't always work out the way you want them to. There are many ways to be organized - you just need to find the way that works for you.
P.S. I have ADD.
ADHD & Organization - Can They co-Exist?
Your Inner Color is Blue
Your Personality: Your natural warmth and intuition nurtures those around you. You are accepting and always follow your heart.
You in Love: Relationships are your top priority, and this includes love. You are most happy when you are serious with someone.
Your Career: You need to help others in your job to feel satisfied. You would be a great nurse, psychologist, or counselor.
In his book, Quiet Strength, Indianapolis Colts Head Coach Tony Dungy talks about how he didn’t get to hug his son, Jamie, when Jamie left the house for the airport after the Thanksgiving holiday. Jamie was in a rush to catch his flight. But Tony knew he’d see his son again soon and would get his hug then. Well, Tony never got to hug Jamie again. And at his son’s funeral, Tony said “Parents, hug your kids every chance you get. Tell them that you love them every chance you get. You don’t know when it’s going to be the last time.” Mom, Dad, you never know what tomorrow will bring, so remember . . . hug your child today and remember . . .
Remember your family first.
Abundance: What It Is and What It Isn't
Here's a concept that is the basis of many of my thoughts and practices about abundance: Abundance and money are not the same. Nor is either the same as prosperity. We can learn about abundance using money as a vehicle, but the two are not synonymous. I believe that if we all unhook from the belief that money and prosperity and abundance are the same, we will experience more of all three! Each of us has a right to be inundated with all three, if that is our desire.
Someone can have lots of money, yet live in poverty consciousness. Someone can easily meet financial commitments, yet feel sadly lacking in confidence or friends or competence or joy. We can use anything to experience abundance: the ocean, food, mountains, paper, trust, money, confidence, skills, anything! Abundance is about unlimited consciousness, not physical things. The consciousness of abundance creates those things.
If you’ve got melted chocolate all over your hands, you’re eating it too slowly.
Chocolate covered raisins, cherries, orange slices, and strawberries all count as fruit, so eat as many as you want.
The problem: How to get 2 pounds of chocolate home from the store in a hot car. The Solution: Eat it in the parking lot.
Diet tip: Eat a chocolate bar before each meal. It’ll take the edge off your appetite and you’ll eat less.
A nice box of chocolates can provide your total daily intake of calories in one place. Isn't that handy?
If you can’t eat all your chocolate, it will keep in the freezer. But if you can’t eat all your chocolate, what’s wrong with you?
If I eat equal amounts of dark chocolate and white chocolate, is that a balanced diet? Don’t they actually counteract each other?
Money talks. Chocolate sings.
Chocolate has many preservatives. Preservatives make you look younger.
Q. Why is there no such organization as Chocoholics Anonymous?
A. Because no one wants to quit.
If not for chocolate, there would be no need for control top pantyhose. An entire garment industry would be devastated.
Put "eat chocolate" at the top of your list of things to do today. That way, at least, you’ll get one thing done.
Your Nail Polish Color is Red
How you're unique: You have an incredible eye for style and art
Why your style rocks: You are classic and classy - and that's hot!
What this color says about you: "I'm smart, sassy, and sexy. And I know it."
I am going to concentrate on what's important in life. I'm going to strive everyday to be a kind and generous and loving person.
~~ Diane Frolov and Andrew Schneider ~~
I too want to strive to be a kind and generous and loving person every day. How about you?
"The Random Acts of Kindness Foundation inspires people to practice kindness and to 'pass it on' to others." With all of the pressures of everyday living, too often we forget the difference that simple acts of kindness can make to others and to ourselves. Now there is a resource that will help you remember and even define 'Acts of Kindness,' all the while helping make clearer the importance of these acts. You'll have the opportunity to see what others in your area are doing and even build a website of your own 'Acts of Kindness.' Naturally, there are kindness quotations, inspirational stories, and even articles on the health benefits of kindness. For those of you involved in the educational process, there's a 'Teacher's Corner' for 'Shared Ideas' and 'Resource Guides.' As Ralph Waldo Emerson wrote, "You cannot do a kindness too soon, for you never know how soon it will be too late." What better incentive to remind you to perform your Acts of Kindness today.
Once you arrive on Planet Giggle you are instructed to stay tuned to GiggleVision, the alternative to television, a media where you 'Dream it! Believe it! Create it! Got it!' This interactive site helps kids and teens begin on a lifelong course to realize their dreams. The developers quit their regular jobs, "loaded up an RV and traveled across the country in search of kids who could inspire the world to live their dreams, . . . [kids who could] inspire YOU to get off your bum and get out there to discover your own dreams!" You'll have access to Kidvision, actual examples of kids who are changing the world with their dreams, suggestions for helping you 'Color Outside the Lines,' taking a traditional idea and putting your own twist on it, links to other creative sites, and an opportunity to share your dreams with other teens. Tune in soon so you can really 'Get It!'
Whether you are dealing with depression, grief, suicide, mental illness, emotional crisis, or are just feeling overwhelmed with life, you are not alone! We all go through difficult periods in our lives, when everyday life feels like it's just too much to bear. A little support can go a long way towards helping us cope. The Bright Side is the Internet site that can help visitors with the coping process, one that can provide support from everyday stress as well as education on specific mental health issues. There is no problem finding the information with the search facility on the site and directories providing links to outside support and information. Now there is a Bright Side to help everyone "clear the clouds."
A little over four years ago I moved into this house. The last house I lived in had flooded five times in an 8 week period. At times, my washer and dryer were floating in the basement. There were so many things wrong with that house but I had run out of time to find a HUD approved place before I lost my HUD status, so for a few years we lived in a house where dust in the pipe-work regularly caught on fire, where we dealt with a dirt basement floor, where mold had grown so badly that my daughter became allergic. Ugh.
Thankfully, I finally found a better place, physically, literally, emotionally. Hooray!
Why I Love My Home
- Cement floor in basement.
- Dining Room transformed into office and craft studio.
- New windows.
- Old, beautiful woodwork.
- Closets (old house only had one).
- Wraparound front porch.
- Back porch.
- Eat-in kitchen.
To join the Top Ten Tuesday meme, go to Oh Amanda.
How much do you cost? Add up your points.
Natural Hair Color:
[ ] Red/Auburn - $50
[x] Brown - $75
[ ] Blonde - $50
[ ] Black - $15
[ ] Bald - $5
[x]Blue - $100
[ ] Green - $75
[ ]Brown - $20
[ ]Hazel - $50
[ ]Other - $15
[ ] Over 7' - $200
[ ] 6'8" to 7' - $175
[ ] 6'0" to 6'7" - $150
[ ] 5'5" to 5'11" - $75
[x] 5'0" to 5'4" - $100
[ ] Under 5-$75
[x] 31 to 40 - $100
[ ] 26 to 30 - $75
[ ] 21 to 25 - $50
[ ] 18 to 20 - $125
[ ] 0 to 17 - $150
Total so far: $375
[ ] PhD - $500
[ ] Masters - $450
[x] Bachelors - $400
[ ] Associates - $350
[ ] In College/Some College - $300
[ ] High School Graduate - $250
[ ] In High School - $200
[ ] Middle school - $150
[ ] High School Dropout - $100
[ ] What is School - $Bankrupt$
[ ] Twins or more than twins - $300
[ ] First born - $300*
[x] Only child - $250*
[ ] Second born-$150
[ ] Middle child -$100
[x] Second to last born- $75*
[ ] Last Born - $50
[ ] Other - $25
*I am my father's only child. I am part of 5 siblings that my mother has.
[ ] No correction $75
[x] Glasses $50
[x] Contacts $25
[ ] Surgical correction $10
Total so far: $1,175
[ ]Orange - $1000
[ ]Gold - $700
[ ]Gray - $600
[ ] Blue - $500
[x] White - $475
[ ] Black - $450
[ ] Red - $400
[ ] Green- $350
[ ] Silver - $300
[ ] Purple- $250
[ ] Metallic - $200
[ ] Yellow - $100
[ ] Primer - $75
[x] Rusted - $15
[ ] No Car - $0
[ ] 13+ - $300
[ ] 11 to 12 - $200
[x] 7 to 10 - $100
[ ] Under 7- $50
[ ] Black - $500
[ ] Blue - $475
[ ] Brown - $450
[ ] Purple - $425
[x] White - $450
[ ] Green - $350
[ ] Orange - $300
[ ] Yellow - $200
[ ] Pink - $100
[ ] Other - $ 50
How much do YOU cost? Let us know in the comments.
Avoid any diet that discourages the use of hot fudge.
~~ Don Kardong ~~
I've decided that perhaps I'm bulimic and just keep forgetting to purge.
~~ Paula Poundstone ~~
You can't lose weight by talking about it. You have to keep your mouth shut.
~~ Author Unknown ~~
I think I just ate my willpower.
~~ Author Unknown ~~
Dieting is not a piece of cake.
~~ Author Unknown ~~
I'm not overweight. I'm just nine inches too short.
~~ Shelley Winters ~~
When I buy cookies I eat just four and throw the rest away. But first I spray them with Raid so I won't dig them out of the garbage later. Be careful, though, because that Raid really doesn't taste that bad.
~~ Janette Barber ~~
Join me in the fun and giggles of making Mondays a better day by sharing some laughs. Add your link to your Make Me Laugh Monday post to Mr. Linky below. (All links not leading directly to your post will be deleted.) All posts should be funny in some way. Yes, this is up to interpretation. Ideas include riddles, funny family stories, comic strips, jokes, silly graphics, funny lyrics, hilarious photos, etc. Please don't leave me to snicker all alone. I'm sure YOU have something funny to share.
All these quotes were found at The Quote Garden.
I did the macarena with a homeless guy because I'm sexy and I do what I want.
Pick the month you were born in:
Mar–I karate chopped
May–I jumped on
Jul–I did the macarena with
Aug–I had lunch with
Sep–I danced with
Oct–I sang to
Nov–I yelled at
Dec–I ran over
Pick the date you were born on:
7–my cell phone
9–my best friends’ boyfriend
11–my science teacher
14–a stuffed animal
20–a baseball bat
25–a football player
31–a homeless guy
Pick the color of shirt you are wearing:
White–because I’m cool like that.
Black–because that’s how I roll.
Pink–because I’m not crazy.
Red–because the voices told me to.
Blue–because I’m sexy and I do what I want.
Green–because I think I need some serious help.
Purple–because I’m awesome.
Gray–because Big Bird said to and he’s my leader.
Yellow–because someone offered me $1.
Orange–because my family thinks I’m crazy.
Brown–because I can.
Other–because I’m a Ninja.
None–because I can ‘t control myself.
Let me know what YOU did by leaving a comment below.
There is that part of ourselves that feels ugly, deformed, unacceptable. That part, above all, we must learn to cherish, embrace, and call by name. Each of us has characteristics we define as good and those we define as bad. The parts of ourselves that we continually reject want to be acknowledged and loved. Until we honor these aspects, they will continue to assert themselves. They will do whatever they can to get our attention.
What aspects of yourself do you reject?
Take a few moments to open to the parts of yourself that you do not love. See each one honestly for what it is. Explore the wounds and the motives that gave rise to its condition. Love a wounded part of yourself and it will heal.
The first step toward change is acceptance. Once you accept yourself, you open the door to change. That's all you have to do. Change is not something you do, it's something you allow.
The Grammar of Life
Said a Professor of English:
Live in the active voice, not the passive.
Thank more about what you make happen
than what happens to you.
Live in the indicative mood,
rather than the subjunctive.
Be concerned with things as they are
rather than as they might be.
Live in the present tense,
facing the duty at hand
Without regret for the past
or worry for the future.
Live in the first person, criticizing yourself
rather than finding fault with others.
Live in the singular number,
Caring more for the approval of your own conscience
than for the applause of the crowd.
And if you want a verb to conjugate,
You cannot do better than to take The verb ‘to love’.
~~ Author Unknown ~~