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Becoming a Spinster

I waited in line so I could add my name to the log so I could continue to do my advocacy work.

After asking my name and address, they asked the more personal questions that I am starting to dread.

Your marital status?
Single. I think since I have been divorced for over 10 years now that the statistical data shouldn't count as divorced but as single, especially since I am a single mother.

Your age?
40. I sigh a big sigh.

It's May and in two months, in July, I'll be 41. When does a woman become a spinster? Did I enter spinsterhood a decade ago when I hit thirty? Am I spinster now because I am forty? Or would the women's movement grant me a reprieve so I don't enter the old maid's category until I reach fifty or sixty? In some circles, I'm considered a spinster because I am single and don't date.

However, I have children... so does that change my status?

My mother isn't reticent about reminding me that my biological clock is ticking. I already have children and I have already had a hysterectomy so what exactly is ticking? And do I want my body to be ticking?

Why does the word spinster dredge up awful images and heartless thoughts?

spin-ster (spnstr)
NOUN:
1. A woman who has remained single beyond the conventional age for marrying.
2. A single woman.
3. An unmarried or single woman; used in legal proceedings as a title, or addition to the surname.
4. A woman of evil life and character.
5. An elderly unmarried woman.
6. Someone who spins (who twists fibers into threads).

At the time of this posting, I was happy to be a spinster; but after finding and reading the definitions above, I'm not so sure.

3 cherished words:

Earthmommy said...

This post had me cracking up, thank you for the chuckle. Thanks also for your kind comments on my dolls.

Tracey said...

Your only as old as you feel....your kids still love you so nothing else matters!!!

ps...see my post today...one day closer to adoption....

Storm said...

This post wasn't originally written to be funny but the end result is well... funny. :)

Yes, you are right, Tracey.

 
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